thrive: /thrīv/ verb – to grow or develop well or vigorously. to prosper; flourish.
We all want to thrive.
But “Thriving” requires a foundation:
Recognizing our beautiful worth — and courageously learning to love our own selves — we dare to investigate our own stories and do the hard work of creating a life that is deeply rooted in our own truth. This foundation allows us lives we long for, by overcoming our fears and wounds.
In short, it’s about rising up, speaking up and showing up in our own lives, and transforming everything; our emotional wellness, our relationships, and our life's work.
The Path To Being Rooted & Risen
I am passionate about empowering, equipping, and inspiring women to unearth their personal worth, inherent beauty, and feminine strength to build lives and livelihoods they love, and through the power of women's stories, guide them to not mere survival, but rather, full-hearted living.
I hope you find, in the many facets of Rooted & Risen, a new lens through which to see yourself – helping you recognize the wonder that you are, your beautiful talents and gifts, and supporting you as you forge into the depths of your true worth through the courageous exploration of your own fears and challenges.
So, what does a woman who is Rooted & Risen look like?
When women courageously embark on the journey of self-exploration and do the work of grounding themselves in their own truth they…:
1. Cease the endless struggle for acceptance, love, and affirmation; knowing they are ABSOLUTELY ENOUGH.
2. Don't shrink away from adventure or things that take them out of their comfort zone.
3. Engage in and create work that is personally meaningful, fulfilling and impactful.
4. Use their immense talents and gifts in loving service of others, improving the world with the wonder of who they are.
5. Thrive in beautiful, heart-connected relationships that are healthy, mutually beneficial and enriching.
6. Shed their fear of failure; therefore, opening the door to lives unhindered by guilt & shame.
7. Serve as powerful role models for their children and other women who wish to live courageously and fully.
8. Cast off the pain and trauma from the past and from their cultural and religious training that keeps them from seeing how special,
valuable, and beautiful they are.
9. Act in closer alignment with their own personal beliefs and values.
10. Communicate and connect with others in ways that uplift and inspire those they come in contact with.
In short, a woman that rises out of strong, healthy roots lives, loves, grows, and powerfully impacts the world with her story and her truth.
“I don't want to get to the end of my life and find that I lived just the width of it. I want to have lived the heights and depths of it, as well.”
When I was in my 20’s and 30’s and immersed in being the wife of a career military officer and the raising of our 5 children, I struggled inwardly to feel successful, valued and to believe that what I was doing was making a positive contribution in the world because I wasn't making a paycheck or getting promotions and recognition for all of my hard work. Back then, I was immersed in religion and the whole lifestyle that it created. In the church, you are taught to meet the needs of others before meeting your own needs or even acknowledging that you have needs. Making others feel loved and seen became the goal of my existence while I slowly ceased to see myself as anything but a 'need-meeter'.
Slowly, I began to feel like I was always missing the mark. As a mother of a literal litter of children... I loved being home with them but I was tired. Very tired. My body was tired after birthing 4 children in less than 5 years and navigating the world of emergency placement foster care and adoption. My husband travelled often for training, college, or military deployments. As a young wife, I was immersed in trying to make my husband happy, meet his needs, take pressure off of him, and keep him satisfied emotionally, spiritually, and sexually. As a Christian, I felt like I wasn't reading my Bible enough or praying consistently enough or serving effectively. There was always a box that needed checking that I just wasn't checking correctly or in the right timing.
The answer to this constant nagging 'lack' was to try harder, do more, get involved in yet another 'ministry', start another multi-level marketing business so I could add a career and a paycheck to my overflowing plate. I was constantly aiming at perfection and inevitably missing the mark. I began to start gaining weight, because all I did was cook, homeschool, and run children to their activities. I focused all of my energy into my family, my church, and whatever business I was attempting at the time. I was afraid of being a disappointment, of displeasing others or not measuring-up.
So I focused on what I was good at... being a mom, a wife, and a charismatic wanna-be entrepreneur. I stopped looking at the places in my heart that were hiding... afraid... hesitant... insecure.
In my early 40's, as most of my children had flown the nest, I focused my energy onto my photography business. My husband encouraged me to build a studio and saw in me the potential to create something really beautiful for myself. I began to feel passion and purpose in brand new ways and since the children needed me so much less... I had a new 'business baby' that was always in need of my attention. And it grew. And it was wonderful. And it kept growing. And I spent more time and energy feeding it. Before I knew it, I was photographing all over the world and had a full-grown, award-winning 6-figure business. And guess what? I continued to gain weight and work more to avoid looking at the things in me that were scary, uncomfortable and hard... and I gave all of my energy to what made me feel successful, capable, and empowered.
The truth is, in my ceaseless striving to finally feel like I was 'enough'... I abandoned myself.
Let's go ahead and fast forward a bit (you'll hear more of my story on the Rooted & Risen Podcast, on my blog, & in my courses & workshops). In the past decade, I have had to face some of the most difficult, painful losses anyone can experience. There isn't time or space here to delve into all of it here, but in my heartbreak, I was lost to myself. In this process of being completely UNDONE, I began a transformation. I will never, EVER, tell you that I have arrived because no one arrives and that is the lie that keeps us endlessly hustling for the illusive 'finally enough'. Suffice it say, that I have learned a thing or two as I have solidly reached mid-life. I still own my thriving photography business, Becoming Images, but I am running it the way I want now, with a focus on my needs and a healthy work/life balance. I have been a certified life-coach for over a decade and have worked with many couples, countless women, and an exclusive gathering of female business owners seeking to take their businesses to the next level.
It is out of this ongoing personal metamorphosis and the role of mentoring and coaching others that has revealed a new path in my life.
I sat on a plane in the Fall of 2019- heading home from a trip to Sedona with my husband. Headphones filling my mind with moving music and a mimosa in hand; l and had a vision of creating a multi-faceted, women's empowerment medium that spans coaching & mentoring, writing, speaking, and teaching. What became clear through my recent losses, was how essential it is that we, women, become deeply rooted in self-love and embrace our personal worth. It is only by digging deep into the richness of our life's soil that we find the strength and power to create lives that are abundant, full-hearted, and risen in wholeness.
Over the past several years, I have had the great blessing of friendship from some of the most remarkable women on the planet. These women spoke into my pain and loss and helped me find my feet... reminded me of my worth... bound up my brokenness with their stories and their authenticity and presence in my life. They walked beside me in dark places that they never wanted to go... and in their willingness, revealed the importance of women's roles in one another's lives and how this genuine presence sharpens us, challenges us, bonds us, and creates women that operate in fullness.
I asked myself this question:
“What is the one, most essential ingredient that is missing from the lives of women who feel they can’t experience the joy, peace, and true emotional and physical wellness that they long for?"
And I also asked myself:
“If I could share the single most important lesson I've learned through my struggles, successes and life experiences to help women thrive and build happier, more fulfilling and impactful lives, what would that be?“
Both answers were the same – Being rooted in self-love and finding our inherent worth.
Love of self and embracing our worth is essential for a well-lived life. So many women haven’t identified how to experience this or they hide from it because becoming deeply rooted requires them to have to face things that are difficult in their lives. But an authentically empowered life can only rise out of this powerful depth.
With all of my heart; my endeavor with Rooted & Risen is to empower women to rise up, speak up, and show up in their own lives, in ways they never could have imagined before. And to transform the trauma and struggles in their story and learn to tell a new narrative of possibility, abundance and true fulfillment.